Sharing a comfortable silence

sharing a comfortable silence

Usually when people talk about connecting with someone, it’s through conversation.
You talk, they respond. It goes back and forth like a game of ping pong for awhile.

Deep + intimate conversations are cool. They work.

But sometimes, it’s also silence.
When you are comfortable enough with someone to just – Shut. The. Fuck. Up.
And share a comfortable silence.

No awkwardness. Just you & the other person. Together.
I like that. I like when I am with someone and there’s no urge to break the silence.

A silence that is timed, intentional, + impromptu.

No exchange of word vomit needed to build a sense of closeness and intimacy.

It’s not always about the things we say, but rather the things we don’t have to say.

4 Comments

  • How true is this. It reminds me of the conversation that Mia and Vincent have in Pulp Fiction.

    Mia: Don’t you hate that?
    Vincent: What?
    Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it’s necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?
    Vincent: I don’t know. That’s a good question.
    Mia: That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.

    I can tell if I’m going to gel with someone if they can enjoy some silence with me, even if its just for a minute.

  • Yes. Exactly. I have such trouble when people talk just to hear themselves. Sometimes, especially out for a meal when we’re waiting for food to arrive, I just want to sit quietly and listen to everything, which is it’s own special kind of connection.

  • Yes, yes YES! As an introvert, I totally know what you mean. Extroverts that feel the need to constantly communicate, lest they feel ignored, have such a hard time grasping this. I feel sorry for them, actually…

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